Ahmadi Muslim VideoTube Friday Sermon Khalifa V Friday Sermon: The best of you are the best to their women; Lead by example: 19th May 2017

Friday Sermon: The best of you are the best to their women; Lead by example: 19th May 2017



Friday Sermon: The best of you are the best to their women; Lead by example: 19th May 2017

Friday Sermon: The best of you are the best to their women; Lead by example: 19th May 2017

Friday Sermon – Khalifatul Masih V – Mirza Masroor Ahmad – Year 2017

Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah I bear witness that Muhammad (saw) is the Messenger of Allah. Come to Prayer Come to success Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.

There is none worthy of worship except Allah. Peace be upon you I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah He is alone and has no partner and I bear witness that Muhammad (saw) is His Servant and Messenger

After this I seek refuge with Allah from Satan the accursed. In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful. All praise belongs to Allah, Lord of all the worlds. The Gracious, the Merciful. Master of the Day of Judgment.

Thee alone do we worship and Thee alone do we implore for help. Guide us in the right path The path of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy blessings, those who have not incurred Thy displeasure, and those who have not gone astray.

The teaching of Islam, which was revealed to the Holy Prophet (saw), provides us with guidance regarding every matter. If every one of us, were to act upon this teaching, a beautiful society could be formed. Moreover, the non-Muslim world today,

Which is raising allegations against Islam and the conduct of Muslims, would instead give examples of the model of Muslims and be persuaded by Islam due to them correctly adhering upon the teaching of Islam and thus not level such allegations. However, it is unfortunate that

Although the majority of Muslims read this commandment of Allah the Almighty, revere it, but when it comes to acting upon it, they simply ignore it. There are countless commandments in the Holy Qur’an. However, Allah the Almighty has consolidated them into one sentence by stating: [Arabic]

‘‘Verily you have in the Prophet of Allah an excellent model’’. The life of the Holy Prophet (saw), extending right from [matters related to] the household up to his relations with the wider public, was a practical example of all the commandments of the Holy Qur’an.

Thus, true success can only be achieved, if we put this model before us in every matter. Sometimes, one exhibits excellent examples in more significant affairs but ignores seemingly less significant things as if they have no importance at all, whereas,

Contrary to this [attitude], the Holy Prophet (saw) has drawn much attention to such things in his sayings as well as through his practical example. Thus, if we desire to make our lives peaceful, if we want to receive the blessings of Allah the Almighty,

Then we must inculcate those morals in our lives, which our Master and Guide, the Holy Prophet (saw) illustrated before us in every matter and which, in this age, the ardent devotee of the Holy Prophet (saw) has clearly elucidated before us and has admonished us to act upon.

In view of this, I will now say something regarding responsibilities of men in various capacities. A man has responsibilities as the guardian of the household and as a husband. He has responsibilities as a father as well as a son.

If every man came to understand these responsibilities and tried to fulfill them, it could become a means of peace in the wider society and of the establishment of love and harmony. These things then become a means of [good] upbringing of children and

Of spreading a peaceful progeny, which upholds human rights. And, this also leads to the peace and serenity in one’s home. Nowadays, many issues and complaints regarding households are being received, where the understanding of a man being the guardian of the household is that

‘I am the head of the household, I am above [others] and I have all the authority.’ He neither respects his wife nor gives her the due rights. He does not fulfil the responsibility of [good] upbringing of children and the ‘guardianship’ is merely by name.

Even such complaints have been received from some women from India as well as Pakistan that the husbands beat the wives so severely that they are left with bruises and have also bruised their faces. Further yet, even some people, who are living in these [western] countries, commit such acts.

Then, some fathers treat their sons and daughters in a way which is tantamount to cruelty. If,even after having accepted the Promised Messiah (as), one wants to carry on living like an ignorant person [or] like those ‘muslims’ who have absolutely no knowledge of faith,

If one wants to carry on treating his wife and children like ignorant people, then there is no benefit in coming into the Bai’at [Oath of Initiation] of the Promised Messiah (as) while promising to change one’s condition. Are men fulfilling their responsibility regarding the rights of God and

Their responsibility regarding the raising of standards of actions? If they are fulfilling it, then it is impossible that they commit any kind of cruelty in their homes. The Holy Prophet (saw), as the guardian of his family,

First and foremost made the importance of establishing tauheed [Oneness of God] clear upon his household and made certain that his family acted upon it. However, he did so with love and affection, not by force.

The Holy Prophet (saw), in spite of being the guardian of his family and despite having all those commitments towards reforming the whole world and establishing the Shariah, fulfilled his responsibilities towards his family and he did so with love, compassion and affection.

He fulfilled his responsibility of being the guardian of his household by firstly making one realise that it is one’s responsibility to establish tauheed and to worship God. Thus, Hazrat Ayesha (ra) relates that, “the Holy Prophet (saw) would wake up during the night to offer nafl [voluntary] prayers and

“before it was time for the morning prayer, “he would wake us up with a light sprinkling of water, “so that we may offer nawafil, perform worship and “fulfil the responsibilities which are due to Allah”.

Then, how did he fulfil his responsibilities towards the members of his household? He would help with tasks, which were part of the duties of the wives. Thus, Hazrat Ayesha (ra) also narrates that during the entire time, which he spent at home,

He would be occupied with helping and assisting the members of his family until he was called upon for the obligatory prayer. Then he would leave for the mosque. Thus this is the example, which we must and should follow rather than treating wives in a manner, which mirrors cruelty.

Hazrat Ayesha (ra) while elaborating on his housework, further relates that he would also stitch his own clothes, mend his shoes and repair the household items such as the water bucket etc. Thus, many husbands, keeping these examples in mind,

Will have to re-assess themselves and will have to pay attention to whether this is the kind of conduct or treatment, which they entertain in their homes. Once, the Holy Prophet (saw) told his companions regarding the duties of a husband and

The standard of his treatment – as is narrated by Abu Hurairah (ra) that, “Those from among the believers are complete in their faith who possess good morals. “And the one from among you is the highest regarding morals and manners “who is better in his treatment of his wives.”

Thus, everyone, who does not treat his wives well, should make a reassessment, for good morals and showing good treatment to wives is not only generally perceived as a good moral act, in fact the Holy Prophet (saw) said that,

It was the very sign of the greatness of one’s standard of faith. The Promised Messiah states, regarding the responsibilities of a husband and good treatment of wives, “With the exception of indecency, “all weaknesses and petulant behaviour of women should be tolerated.

“I find it absolutely shameful that a man should fight a woman. “God has made us men, which is the consummation of His grace upon us, “and we should express our gratitude for this great bounty “by treating women with kindness and compassion.”

Once, the harsh temperament and abusive language of a friend was mentioned and that he was very harsh with his wife. The Promised Messiah (as) became very upset and saddened by hearing this. He said that our members [of the Jama’at] should not be like that.

The person relating this further writes that the Promised Messiah (as) spoke about the treatment of women for a very long time and at the end he said: “My own state is such that I once raised my voice against my wife and

“I felt that this loud voice was mixed with the indignation of the heart.” He spoke with a raised voice and thought that perhaps it was mixed with some indignation of the heart. “And I immediately refrained from uttering any hurtful and harsh word.”

Although he did not utter any harsh word but despite this the Promised Messiah (as) says, “I recited a lot of Istighfar [seeking forgiveness] and offered voluntary prayers “with great ferventness and also gave some charity as the use of this strong tone

“against his wife was a result of unknowingly becoming disobedient to God.” Thus, this is the example of the Promised Messiah (as). Furthermore, regarding the harsh conduct of a friend he showed great concern and grief and

Also admonished that those people, who argue, fight and raise their hands on their wives on the smallest of matters, should come to their senses. Let alone raising the hand, as I mentioned earlier that they even cause injury to them and this is a state of great concern for them.

According to the Holy Prophet (saw) the faith of these people is not complete. They should be concerned about their faith. Furthermore, due to these very words of the Holy Prophet (saw), the Promised Messiah (as) also became concerned,

As the person who is not at the highest standard of faith, can stumble at any time. Thus, as I have mentioned, these matters apparently seem to be trivial. However, they are not trivial. In these countries, such issues are brought to the police and subsequently, the Jama’at receives a bad name.

Furthermore, such people incur worldly punishment as well as the displeasure of Allah Almighty. Some men say that his wife possesses such and such flaw, due to which we have to be harsh. From this perspective, it is men who should firstly evaluate themselves and

See whether they fulfil the standards of [their] religion. Admonishing such men, the Promised Messiah (as) says: “If a man is not pious, how then can his wife be pious?” The very first condition is that the man should be pious and only then will his wife also become pious.

The Promised Messiah (as) further said, “Verily, if a man becomes pious, “his wife can also become pious.” He said, “His wife should not be advised through words, rather, “it is effective if she is advised through actions.” Do not merely advise through words. Do not merely scold.

Rather, prove from your actions that you are pious and that every step of yours is in accordance with the commandments of Allah the Almighty. Hence, the Promised Messiah (as) said that advice demonstrated through one’s own conduct is effective.

He said, “Let alone his wife, there is no one who believes in someone merely through words?” No one does so without actions. “If a man possesses any crookedness or flaw, his wife will always be a witness of that.”

He said, “The person, who does not fear God himself, how then can his wife fear Him? “Neither does the advice of these Maulvis [religious clerics] bear any effect, “nor does that of a husband. “In all circumstances, it is the practical example, which bears effect.”

He (as) says, “When a husband wakes up at night and supplicates and cries, “his wife will observe this for a day or two and eventually realise this [responsibility] herself “as well and she will most certainly be influenced.” He (as) says, “Women’s capacity to be influenced is great.

“Even a school cannot suffice for their reformation,” There is no need for any school or institute for the reformation of women. “in comparison to the sufficiency of the practical example of the husband.” If they wish to reform, the husbands should reform themselves.

Demonstrate their practical examples and subsequently, they [wives] will be reformed. The Promised Messiah (as) says, “God has declared husband and wife to be one being. “It is an injustice from the husband to give his wife an opportunity to point out his flaw.

“They should not at all give any such opportunity to their wives so that “they are able to say that he commits such wrong.” Men should never give such an opportunity where women say that ‘You possess such vice and that you commit such indecencies’.

Rather, the Promised Messiah (as) says, “A person should be so pure that “his wife becomes tired from searching here and there, “and still is unable to find any kind of flaw. “At that time, she becomes aware of spirituality and understands religion.”

When such a condition arises that despite searching, she cannot find a flaw in her husband, at that time, if his wife is not religious already, she will develop an inclination towards religion. Here I have observed that women are more religious.

They complain at times that our husband is not inclined towards religion. On the one hand, we have the expectations of the Promised Messiah (as) from the men who have come into his Bai’at , and on the other hand,

We observe that there are many men, as I have mentioned, whose wives submit complaints that these men are neglectful of prayers and let alone congregational prayers, they do not even pray at home. The religious knowledge of men is weak. The men of several households are weak in giving Chanda.

There are complaints about men watching absurd and immoral programmes on TV. There are complaints about the negligence of men with regards to the upbringing of children. Furthermore, if they ever try to be the head of the house and try to be fathers,

They do nothing but scold and physically abuse. In many households women are teaching men instead of learning from them, or they make them attentive to their responsibilities, that the kids do not go astray. In whichever households the children are a victim of negligence in their upbringing,

The reason is generally the negligence of men or their undue harshness towards his wife and children. Several children come to me at times and complain that “Our father’s treatment towards our mother or towards us is not good”. Thus, if you wish to have a peaceful home,

If you wish to bring up the future generations and keep them attached to religion, then men need to be attentive towards their conditions. The Promised Messiah (as) says, Focusing the attention of men [towards their responsibilities], “Man is the head of his house.

“Thus, if he establishes a bad influence, it can be expected to spread far and wide.” If a negative influence is emerging due to his actions, it will continue to spread in the progeny as well. He says, “A man should utilise his faculties on the appropriate and lawful occasions.

“For instance, one faculty is that of anger. “If it exceeds the limit of moderation, it leads to insanity.” Anger is within the nature of man. However, when it exceeds the limits it leads to insanity or madness. The Promised Messiah (as) said, “There is little difference between this and insanity.

“A person who loses his temper is deprived of the fountain of wisdom. “As a matter of fact, he should not even speak angrily even to an opponent.” Let alone members of the family, he should not even speak to opponents in an angry manner. Thus, this is the standard.

He should not be angry with his wife and children at home. Furthermore, let alone this anger, if there is an opponent then he should not even speak to him in a furious and senseless manner. Even whilst responding to an opponent, foul language and words filled with anger

Should never by uttered by a believer. As I have mentioned before, women from India or Pakistan write about the injustices of their husbands. Therefore, the Nizarat Islaah-o-Irshaad of Pakistan and Qadian and also the auxiliary organisations should pay particular attention towards this.

Similarly, the [the Jamaats] in the rest of the world should also pay particular focus on this in their moral training programmes. Whilst you are carrying out Tabligh and acquire knowledge of religion, there is restlessness and disquiet within your homes. This renders all of your knowledge and Tabligh futile.

Regarding the psychology of women and how wives constantly observe their husbands, the Promised Messiah (as) says: “A wife is witness to and observes everything her husband does, “his persona and all of his traits. “She is able to assess all of husband’s qualities of righteousness,

“such as generosity, compassion and patience. “No one else can assess this in the way a wife can,” as she sees him every day at home. “This is why a wife has been described as one who steals [the qualities of her husband]

“in the sense that she sub-consciously absorbs his characteristics and morals “to the extent that ultimately she assimilates them entirely.” It is narrated that once there was man who left Islam to become a Christian and his wife followed him into Christianity as well.

She started drinking, gave up Purdah and started interacting with non-relatives and so on. Sometime later the realisation dawned upon the husband that he had erred by leaving Islam and so he re-embraced it. He told his wife to also return to Islam,

However she said it would now be too difficult to be Muslim, she was used to drinking and the other freedoms she had attained. This is an extreme example whereby the husband renounced Islam altogether and embraced Christianity. However, there are many men who do not renounce Islam,

But remain attached to the religion by name only and still call themselves Muslims. In the name of freedom they indulge in numerous inappropriate activities, as I have mentioned before. Their wives imitate the habits of their husbands or are encouraged by them to partake in it

And so the wives too become rooted in such an environment. Eventually the husband realises that his wife has exceeded in her freedoms and this leads to disputes and quarrels breaking out when the husband tries to rein her in.

This is the point where physical violence and beatings [by the husband] begins. Here as well similar incidents occur and as I have said earlier, the police and children’s rights groups immediately become involved. Homes are torn apart and the lives of the children are also ruined.

Therefore, before one’s home is shattered and the lives of children are devastated, such husband’s should understand the responsibilities that the religion of Islam has assigned upon them relating to their wives and children. At one place, regarding the rights of women and the manner they should be treated,

The Promised Messiah (as) says: “No other religion has safeguarded the rights of women as Islam has done. “It lays down the injunction so succinctly: ‘Just as men have rights upon women, so do women have rights upon men’.

“It is said of some people that they treat their wives like shoes and “require them to perform the most degrading and humiliating of tasks. “They abuse them and despise them and “enforce the injunction regarding the veil with such harshness, “as to virtually bury them alive.”

In other words they so severely enforce Purdah upon hands and face of their wives that they find it difficult to even breathe. A husband should never be so strict. However Islam is an all-encompassing religion. On the other hand women should adopt moderation and

Should not try to attain excessive freedoms on the pretext of ease in Purdah. It is observed that some women have adopted freedoms beyond necessities and their Purdah remains in name only – this is also wrong. Women should bear in mind that they need to cover their head and body

According to the requirements of modesty. This is the command of Allah the Almighty and so they should be mindful of this. What should the standard of relationship be between a husband and a wife? The Promised Messiah (as), explaining this, says:

“The relationship between a husband and wife should be like two true and sincere friends. “After all, it is his wife who is the primary witness of a man’s high moral qualities and “his relationship with God Almighty. “If his relationship with his wife is not good,

“how can he be at peace with God?” If a husband’s domestic relationship is poorly then it will be difficult for him to be at peace with God and follow His commands. The Holy Prophet (saw) has said: “The best among you is he who is best towards his wife.’’

Thus these are the standards which every man should adopt. Further, men need to understand their responsibilities as fathers. They should not be under the wrong illusion that the good upbringing of the children is the duty of the mother alone.

Indeed, until a certain age a child spends more time with the mother and in the very early infancy of a child, the mother plays a crucial role in the child’s nurturing. However a husband is not alleviated of all his responsibilities as a result.

Fathers should also play their role in the child’s training and upbringing. In particular, when boys reach seven or eight years old, they become needful of their father’s attention. Failure to see to this means, there are greater chances of children going astray in this Western environment.

The same principle applies here that was explained earlier pertaining to women. Men and fathers must establish their good examples. Where fathers should show respect and regard to their children so they develop good morals, there it is also essential that they keep a very close and watchful eye over them

So the children can be saved from the negative effects of their surroundings. A father’s good relationship with his children gives them a sense of protection. Many parents complain about the attitude of their children that they do not open to them and nor do they trust them,

Or that they have started to make false statements. When parents are counselled to forge a closer bond with their children and to establish a personal connection with them like friends, then generally speaking, the children are seen to overcome many of their weaknesses over time.

Thus to instil in children a sense of security from the external environment, it is imperative that fathers spend time outside with their children. Further, it is the duty of fathers that where they make practical efforts for the good upbringing and training of their children,

There they should also pay attention to pray for them. This is something that is vital. They should also give heed towards the religious training and education of their children. The true fruits of training and nurturing are reaped purely through the Grace of Allah,

Yet it is essential that one makes personal efforts as well. Explaining the different ways of upbringing and training and counselling towards prayers, the Promised Messiah (as) says: “Guidance and training are in reality the acts of God the Almighty.’’ True training is the doing of God the Almighty.

“One who severely rebukes children and reprimands them incessantly and “telling them off strictly on every matter, “is in essence saying that he alone is source and master of all guidance and “will guide others according to his will.

“This is a type of hidden Shirk and our Community should abstain from this.” He (as) stated in regards to himself that: “I pray for my children and require them to follow a broad set of rules of behaviour, “what are our teachings, what are its rules, what are its regulations,

“we draw attention towards them, and no more. “Beyond this I put my full trust in Allah Almighty in the confidence that “the seed of good fortune inherent in each of them will flower at its proper time.”

Thus we should remember that when the Promised Messiah (as) has said that we pray, then the standards of those prayers are very high, we should not consider this fact to be ordinary and

In order to attain the standards of prayer we need to exert a lot of efforts for it. This is not something that should be taken lightly, therefore fathers must give due attention to this. As a father, how should they do the moral upbringing of their children and

How much do they need to pay attention towards this, in regards to thus the Promised Messiah (as) has comprehensively explained this matter at one place by stating that, “Some people entertain this thought that “they should leave behind some wealth for their children.

“I am astonished that they entertain the thought of leaving behind wealth, “yet they do not think to worry about their children being virtuous and not wicked,” that they should not be evil but rather righteous and pious, “But this thought does not come to their minds”.

The Promised Messiah further states: “But this thought does not come to them and neither do they contemplate this matter. “Sometimes it happens that such people gather wealth for their children and “do not worry or care about the faculties of their children.

“During their own lives they become displeased by their children and “due to their children’s ills they become engulfed in tribulations and that wealth, “which God knows how they gathered and through what kinds of means and plans, “is ultimately spent on immorality and the consumption of alcohol and

“children of such parents in fact inherit wickedness and immorality.” The Promised Messiah further states, “The trial of one’s children is a great trial. “If one’s children are virtuous, then what should one worry about. “God Almighty himself states: [Arabic] ‘Allah the Almighty becomes the protector and guardian of the righteous’.

“If they are wicked then whatever wealth is left for them it is wasted in vices and “they becomes destitute and they become embroiled within those hardships and “tribulations that is inevitable for them.” The Promised Messiah further states: “Such a person that moulds himself according

“to the will of God Almighty, he becomes content with his progeny and “that is by making an effort to improve their faculties and “to also pray for them in this regard.” In this way God Almighty shall be his protector, He shall be his guardian.

However, one must endeavour to improve their faculties, that they should pay a lot of attention towards their moral upbringing. He (as) states, “A saying of the Prophet David is, ‘I was a child, I become an adolescent and now I have become old,

‘I have never seen a righteous person in this state that he has been deprived of sustenance ‘and neither have I seen their children survive on specs of food’. “God Almighty is a guardian for many generations. “Hence, become righteous yourself and become an excellent example of righteousness and

“piety for your children.” The fact is that in order to discharge your duties towards your children one must fashion his state according to which Islam has taught. It is only then that the future generation treads upon the correct paths and

They shall become a source of delight for their parent’s eyes. The Promised Messiah further states, “Become righteous yourself and “become an excellent example of piety and righteousness and “in order to make them righteous and religious, one must strive and pray.

“However much you strive to gather wealth for them, “so too should there be an effort in this regard also.” The Promised Messiah (as) further states, “Undertake such work that is an excellent example and moral for children and “for this it is essential that one should reform himself.

“If you are one who is upon the highest standards of piety and become virtuous and “you please God Almighty, then there is this certainty that “Allah the Almighty shall also deal in goodness with your children.” Where Islam urges fathers to focus on the upbringing of their children and

Also to pray for them, at the same time Islam also stresses that the you [children] also have responsibilities. When you reach adolescence you have certain responsibilities towards your parents which you have to fulfil. The rights due ones relatives are similar to links [in a chain]

Which join together to form a peaceful society. Every believer should have the understanding of the importance of fulfilling the rights of one’s parents and how significant this responsibility is. The Holy Prophet (saw) explained the responsibilities of each individual when

They enter adulthood through a narration of Abdullah bin Amr in which he stated that an individual requested the Holy Prophet (saw) that he wished to go for Jihad. The Holy Prophet (saw) asked “Are your parents alive?”. The man replied “Yes”.

The Holy Prophet (saw) said: “you should serve them, this is Jihad for you”. Thus, one can gauge the importance of serving ones parents from this. In fact in order to spread love and affection the Holy Prophet (saw) even urged to serve the friend of one’s father.

On one occasion the Holy Prophet (saw) said: “The best virtue one can perform is to show kindness to his father’s friends “after his father departs from this world.” Further expanding on this there is a narration of the Holy Prophet (saw) which is as follows;

Hazrat Abu Saeed Al-Siyaadi narrates: “We were in the presence of the Holy Prophet (saw) “when a man from the Bani Salama appeared and enquired, ‘O Messenger of Allah! Is there any virtue that I can perform after my parents have passed away?’ “The Holy Prophet (saw) stated:

‘Indeed! You should pray for them and beg for their forgiveness. ‘You should fulfil those promises they made with people. ‘You should show kindness and compassion to all of their relations in a manner ‘that they would have done had they been alive.

‘Also you should show respect to all of their friends’.” Then on another occasion the Holy Prophet (saw) stated: “Whosoever wished to live a long life and for their income to be blessed should “show kindness and compassion to their parents and also show respect to their kinsfolk.”

Thus, children should not only make demands from their parents, rather, when they reach adolescence they have certain responsibilities and rights that they owe towards their parents. Especially after marriage, one should be more mindful of these responsibilities.

If an individual uses wisdom and fulfils the rights of his wife as well as his parents, but also explains the importance of respecting her mother and father in law and at the same time is also respectful towards his own mother and father in law,

Then there will never be any sort of dispute in the home, the likes of which are sometimes seen. Sometimes due to differences in religioun, a rift develops between fathers and sons. Often new converts ask this very question.

In such a situation a son should always show respect to their father and must serve them. On one journey to Batala the Promised Messiah (as) enquired from Sheikh Abdur Rahman Sahib about the situation of his parents. After enquiring the Promised Messiah (as) advised to

“Pray for them,” as they were not Ahmadi and were non-Muslim. “You should try your utmost to the best of their abilities to serve your parents. “By presenting your morals and etiquettes a thousand times better than before “you should be able to convince them of the truthfulness of Islam.

“The miracle that can be witnessed from one’s moral conduct “is incomparable to all other miracles. “The standard of the true Islam is that wherein one is able to reach the highest moral conduct “and transform into a refined individual.

“Perhaps due to your [lofty] morals God Almighty will imbed the love of Islam within them. “Islam does not stop anyone from respecting their parents. “One should obey their parents in all worldly matters that do not oppose religious injunctions. “Serve them with all of your heart and soul.”

Thus, even in preaching the key is that one should always use a soft tone and exhibit the best of morals. In another incident the Promised Messiah (as) gave a detailed explanation. In this case the father was a Muslim.

A person asked: “Your holiness! God Almighty has made it incumbent upon man “to serve his parents and to show obedience to them. “However, since I have performed the Bai’at [Oath of initiation]

“my parents are outraged at this to the extent that they do not even wish to see my face. “When I made my decision to meet his holiness and perform the Bai’at they said, ‘Do not contact us as we do not wish to see you’.

“How can I fulfil this divine responsibility placed upon me? “God Almighty has stated to show obedience to parents, “yet they refuse to see me nor do they wish to keep in contact with me. “How can I serve them and fulfil this responsibility of mine?”

The Promised Messiah (as) replied: “In the Holy Quran, alongside serving ones parents and “showing obedience to them, God Almighty states: [Arabic] ‘Your Lord knows best what is in your minds; if you are righteous, then surely,

‘He is Most Forgiving to those who turn to Him again and again’. “The companions (as) also faced similar problems, “because owing to their religious obligations a rift developed between them and their parents. “Nonetheless, you must always enquire about their well-being.

“Avail every opportunity you get in this regard. “You will always get the blessings of your intentions. “If one is separated from their parents solely for God Almighty and “to give precedence to the will of God, then one is obliged to do so.

“Always look to reform and keep ones intentions pure. “Also you should pray for them. This is not a new issue. “The Prophet Abraham (as) also faced the same issue. “Nevertheless, the right owed to God Almighty should take precedence. “Thus, always give precedence to God Almighty and

“ensure that you do your utmost to fulfil their rights. “Pray for them and keep your intentions pure.” One should always have the right intentions. Thus, there are many people today who are faced with the same situation and

Ask about fulfilling the rights of their parents. This answer should suffice for them. In any case, man should fulfil the various responsibilities that are placed upon him. Always set an example at home whereby it creates an atmosphere of love and affection.

A man is a husband, as well as a father and a son. Therefore one should understand their responsibilities according to their various roles. There are many other capacities but these three are fundamental capacities that I have mentioned are the core principals for maintaining peace in society.

This can only be achieved when there is peace in this core principal and one adorns it to their utmost. May Allah enable everyone to achieve this. All praise is due to Allah. We laud Him, we beseech help from Him and ask His protection;

We confide in Him, we trust Him alone and we seek protection against the evils and mischief of our souls and from the bad results of our deeds. Whomsoever He guides on the right path, none can misguide him; and whosoever He declares misled, none can guide him onto the right path.

And we bear witness that none deserves to be worshipped except Allah. We bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. O servants of Allah! May Allah be merciful to you. Verily, Allah commands you to act with justice, to confer benefits upon each other

And to do good to others as one does to one ‘s kindred and forbids evil which pertain to your own selves and evils which affect others and prohibits revolts against a lawful authority. He warns you against being unmindful. You remember Allah; He too will remember you;

Call Him and He will make a response to your call. And verily divine remembrance is the highest virtue.

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